Maturing Men: Enjoying Life Beyond Fifty

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Somewhere in their 50s, 60s and 70s, all men will face a series of shipwrecks, major or minor: redundancy or retirement, divorce, kids leaving home, health problems....Every shipwreck contains a heartbreak and a gift: there is a loss to grieve, and the freedom of being cast up on an unknown shore, and making fresh choices. What's most poignant about these shipwrecks is that many men don't have the skills to reinvent themselves, to make the best of these new situations.

This blog aims to help maturing men to find these skills and enjoy life beyond 50 to the hilt: it is part of a range of resources including a book, events and a website: see more at www.menbeyond50.net.


Monday 23 May 2011

Woods: wellbeing and wisdom for maturing men


May bluebells in the heart of the wood

One of my top tips for men beyond fifty on how to enjoy life to the full, is to find yourself a wood to spend time in and make friends with.
Surprising?  I’ve seen it work for many other men, as well as me.  A wood can give you a sense of deep safety, of being nurtured.  It can bring you wisdom, and connect you with the strength of the Green Man and the Celtic tradition.
Men like proof of such claims.  I have no scientific data, but a lot of experience to refer to.  The main wood in my life is Hazel Hill, a 70-acre wood in Wiltshire which I have been caring for – and which has cared for me – since 1997.
At that time I received money from share options in the large company I was working for.  Instead of investing it, sensibly (?), in shares, I asked myself, ‘What would I enjoy doing with this money’, and out of nowhere came the answer – buy a wood.  Since then, I have learned a lot about conservation forestry, and have created simple wooden buildings which are used by a range of retreat groups.  The deepest of these events that I have experienced have all been men’s groups.



Saturday 21 May 2011

Handling Separation

If you want to amuse yourself, do a search on Amazon for 'handling separation'. You will get a complete mish-mash of manuals for divorce, and books on the chemistry of fluids. Maybe both are relevant...